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Building Childhood Confidence with Emotional Intelligence (Encouragement)

Cupid D. Atkins

     

One of the most important skills for improving the relationship between parents and children is encouragement. Encouragement is the process whereby you focus on the positive characteristics and strengths of your child to build self-confidence and self-esteem. If we are to be leaders in our communities we need to first become leaders in our own homes. Our families are an image of “US” and it is up to “US” to become more if we expect more. Becoming more doesn’t just mean financial security but using emotional intelligence to safeguard our families against life’s struggles. Encouragement helps your children believe themselves and their abilities. Encouraging our children also builds a better relationship with your children. Fathers who realistically and honestly encourage their children helps their children develop the courage they need to fail at things, but to get back up and try, or learn what their strengths are and except them with confidence.

New Breed of Fathers

As a New Breed Father we must know who we are and our capabilities in an attempt to mandate an aura of harmony within our households. Knowing who we are helps “US” to understand where we need improving in terms personal growth and the steps it will take to get “US” there. If we don’t understand our own strengths and weaknesses we cannot understand others. As a man, you are the leader of your families and being a good leader is to practice what you preach. Your life partner and children are watching you even when you don’t notice. Practicing what you preach convey quality to what we teach. Let your actions communicate love, strength, and courage.

Household Governments

There are 3 major government systems that are evident within a majority of American households, they are; Monarchy, Authoritarian, and Democracy. In a monarchy household we the rewards and punishments are carved in stone and children already know what to expect when receiving disciplines.

In an authoritarian system, children receives their sense and worth by accepting rewards and punishments from those in position of power

I a democracy household, each situation is judged separately and children are usually influenced by encouragements.

Developing A New Breed of Leaders

Helping your children build their feelings of self-esteem may require you to change your usual communication and behavior patterns. Instead of focusing putting too much emphasis on your child’s negative points concentrate on the good ones. Let them know how proud of them for doing what they did well. This is a more positive approach for helping your child correct their wrongs. Focusing on the inadequacies causes them to feel inadequate and give up trying.

When we say to our children, you should … we are actually talking down, criticizing, distrusting, and saying we are better and they are not good enough.

We all want the best for our children, but while our intentions are great our techniques are not always portraying love. Although, we are trying to help them grow more responsible we are demanding perfection and we are not perfect ourselves. Therefore we are talking down.

Often our day-to-day relationships with our children do not match our honorable intentions and ideals, and there is a reason for this. Our society has influenced “US” to be experts at finding fault, to expect the worst, and to be discouraging toward ourselves and our children, but we don’t have to perpetuate this discouraging cycle. We can replace it! With deprogramming we can replace our old ways learning into A New Breed of Leadership ideals, attitudes, and behaviors.

Within this article series we can learn to build purpose, healthy relationships, foster trust, generate integrity, establish balance, master influence, forge community, and inspire authenticity. We will learn how strengthening our Body, Mind, and Spirit we call change our lives; cultural, social, political, community, and economic circumstances. We are The New Breed Leaders-We are A New Age Revelation.

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